I heard a comedian on the radio talk about how he dealt with ‘life’. Don’t worry about the things you can’t control he said. He woke up every morning and thought about what he could control that day and he’d only give his time and energy to those things.
What a good idea I thought.
I’ve always been told I’m a born worrier.
I don’t think I was a born worrier actually. It’s something I’ve learnt to do.
So. How do we just stop worrying about what we can’t control?
This week two people very special to me have had their lives changed forever by loss of loved ones. One who commented often on my blog. We can’t control people dying and leaving us. Can we really stop ourselves worrying about it though? My experiences have at times heightened my worries around death. Understandably so. Worrying though changed absolutely nothing. My tearing myself into a ball of anxiety isn’t going to stop bad.. or good things happening out of my control.
A quote that sticks with me is that worrying is like carrying around an umbrella waiting for the rain. It’s a lesson that I’m learning and I’ll keep trying to learn every single day. Concentrate on what’s actually happening now and not on what we’ve no control of tomorrow.
Worrying may be ingrained within our busy chaotic unpredictable lives. We just need to balance it out with the stuff that makes us feel good too. We can control all kinds of things… hugs, smiles, picking up the phone, walks, taking that photograph, kindness…. it makes far more sense to direct our energy into actions that make us feel better. Things we have control over.
I wonder what J may have said about my blog this week. Something articulate, funny and utterly sensible no doubt.
Give someone an extra big hug today xxx