It’s Easter. Religious or not it feels like a time for thanks and love and new beginnings.
I don’t know about you but sometimes I just read an article and I’m smitten. I love the magazine Psychologies. It’s a little pricey but every time I read it I carry something new forward .
This time there was an article that really could’ve been written by me. It was by a woman who had moved three times in the last twelve months. Same as me. But i’d moved four times.
Like me, she was drowning in stuff. Every time I moved I’m packing away stuff in cupboards that I don’t use. But I can’t get rid of. It’s embarrassing. Not sentimental stuff. I’m talking pans and dishes that I never use. Three bags of plastic bags. Paint and brushes. Old kettles. A pink bin. A broken but much loved wrought iron lamp. A redundant bike rack. Photos I don’t know what to do with. Shoes I’ve never worn.
I honestly have felt ashamed at the ‘stuff’. Not just ashamed but angry. How many hours have I worked for this stuff that I don’t want. Or need!
So I took the pledge. That I don’t buy anything new for myself for a month. I can buy food and petrol and essential house stuff. I can buy birthday gifts for others but nothing for me. Nothing new.
Surprisingly a week in it’s ok. But it’s a huge learning curve. The other day I cleared out the box room in my new house . It was floor to ceiling full of boxes of ‘stuff’. I emptied it. Then. I got in the car to go to the local store to buy more ‘stuff’ for it. When I was there I found myself asking. Do I ‘need’ a new door handle? Do I ‘need’ new curtains? Do I ‘need’ a new pillow and duvet? I stood there and realised that most of these things were already at home. I went home empty handed.
I found the heart shaped pink cushion and the duvet that just needed a new cover. I found frames that I could fill with photos I already had. I put in a new fuse for the lamp that had been due to be binned. I unearthed some throws hidden in the blanket box. The folded chair under the stairs went perfectly with the upcycled bureau. An oval cream mirror from the charity shop and a tea light cream holder that I hadn’t found a home for finished it off. A new room. All from things I already had.
So. Here I am seven days into the month of not buying anything new for myself and my hope is it’ll go on because to be frank I can hardly close my wardrobe and I have more than enough earrings and necklaces. Someone has made us think we need THINGS. So we work so hard and so many long hours and make ourselves tired and stressed….. but really….we all need to think. What do we all really need??
The answer is obvious.
Experiences, feelings, love, instinct, touch, song, words, family, seeing, breathing, here, now, outside, the clouds.
Lots of love this Sunday xx